Monday, 11 January 2021

To Let You Know

My husband passed away just after midnight, January 7.

You have all been so supportive through his illness, and I wanted to let you know.

There is so much I could say, especially about the last six weeks, but the words seem to be stuck inside me.

Maybe later I will be able to get them out.

For now, please know I am okay ... sort of. I have already grieved so much in the last nine months.

I have plenty of support from family, friends and neighbours.

I can still hardly believe he is gone forever. 

He was a good and kind and smart and funny man. I miss him so.

 

 







 

 

83 comments:

Bonnie said...

Oh Jenny, I am so sorry. You have all my sympathy, love and support. I've been thinking of you both so much recently. I can hardly imagine how you must be feeling. I am grateful to hear that you have support from family, friends and neighbors. Give yourself all the time you need and take one day at a time. How I wish I could help you. I wish I could give you a big hug but I guess it will have to be a virtual one. I care. xxx

Geo. said...

O_Jenny, please accept my condolences. You are among the main reasons and finest minds that keep me corresponding on Blogger. You are a person of strong character, and have my full admiration in this time and all times.

Cherie said...

Oh Jenny love I'm so very sorry. My heart aches for you. Please know that you are in my thoughts. xxx

Charlotte (MotherOwl) said...

Oh. So sorry for you. Thank you for tellig us about it - You have both been in my prayers for those long months. Many virtual hugs and prayers from across the sea.

dinthebeast said...

You have my deepest condolences and very best wishes for the future.

-Doug in Sugar Pine

kylie said...

I'm so sorry, Jenny. I think I understand about so much to say and the words being stuck. Really, every other thing is insignificant in the face of him being gone so how does a person write those things?
As you say, maybe later.

My very best, warmest hugs are coming your way.

Kylie xo

Andrew said...

I thought that might happen soon. Dearest Jenny, you have my deepest sympathy. So sorry.

Elephant's Child said...

Heartfelt hugs. And oceans of caring.

bazza said...

So sorry to read this. May this be an end to all your sorrows. Barry X

Infidel753 said...

Very sorry to hear this. No need for words. Sometimes there aren't really any words.

Take the time for yourself that you need. Dealing with grief is a long, back-and-forth process. I'm glad you at least have people nearby for support.

Joan (Devon) said...

Oh Jenny, I'm so terribly sorry. He sounds like an ideal husband and it will take time to come to terms with your loss. Thank you for letting us know, I've been wondering how he was. We'll still be here waiting in the wings when you are ready to post again. Take care my friend, hugs.

Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybe said...

Dearest Jenny, my heart breaks for you. I am so glad that you are surrounded with love from those who are close to you.

Mr. Shife said...

Deepest condolences, jenny_o. I am so sorry for your loss. Please take of yourself and we will be here when you are ready.

TJ Davis said...

And now he is in the arms of peace and love greater than anything any of us could ever imagine.
I extend to you my deepest sympathy and moral support.

Tom

Diane Stringam Tolley said...

Oh, Jenny, words fail me. But please know that my heart is yours.

Red said...

I'm very sorry to hear that your husband passed away. My sympathy to you and your family. As some of my friends say, who've gone through this loss, "It's a major life change.

Susan said...

Oh, Jenny, my condolences. You are in my prayers.

Marie Smith said...

Jenny, I am so sorry. Thinking of you. Take care. With love from across the Northumberland Strait.

Steve Reed said...

Jenny, I am so sorry to hear this. Even though you've been coping with all this for months, I'm sure nothing entirely prepares you for that final loss. Please know my thoughts are with you and I hope you will keep us all posted on how you're handling things. We are here for you.

Sandi said...

My condolences, Jenny.

Lisa Southard said...

Sending my kind wishes too xx

gz said...

Sorry to hear your news..I have been there too...fill the space he leaves with memories...and don't rush xx.,and a big (((hug)))

John M said...

Sorry to find out.

37paddington said...

Oh Jenny. I'm so very sorry to hear this. Please know that I am wrapping you in love.

e said...

I bam so sorry for all your grief and heartbreak. Sending hugs to you and condolences to your family.

Susan Kane said...

I am so sorry to hear about your husband. I will be praying for you and your family. I promise.

Martha said...

Oh Jenny, words fail me. I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm glad that you have the support you need. Sending you lots of heartfelt hugs.

Joanne Noragon said...

Jenny, I am so sorry. Life is brutally unfair. I love you and think of you often, and grateful I know you.

River said...

I am very sorry to hear this. Hang in there, it gets easier over time.

baili said...

i feel holding you in my arms and kissing your forehead dear Jenny
i know no words in entire world can heal your pain right now so i will wait until you come out of trauma little bit and be able to understand clearly
what hold me is that you have full family support in such sad time !
still though away from you i am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and want that may you heal fast and feel better
soon ,amen!
hugs!

Mary said...

Oh Jenny...words are inadequate. They cannot begin to touch your sorrow and the sorrow of those who care about you and your beloved. Instead I'll hold you in my heart. xo

Janie Junebug said...

Oh, my little donkey. Tears are welling up, but I'm in too much pain to cry. How I wish I could hold you.

Love,
Janie

Diane Henders said...

I'm so, so sorry. My heart hurts for you. Holding you in my thoughts...

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Bonnie.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Geo.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Cherie.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Charlotte.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Doug.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Kylie.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Andrew.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, dear friend EC.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Barry.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Infidel.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Joan.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Arleen.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Mr. S.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Tom.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Diane.

jenny_o said...

Your friends are right. Thank you, Red.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Susan.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Marie.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Steve.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Sandi.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Lisa.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, gz. It helps to know about others who have also been here.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, John.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, 37p.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, e.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Susan.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Martha.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Joanne.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, River.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, dear friend baili.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Mary.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Janie J.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Diane.

messymimi said...

For some reason, your latest post did not appear in my blog roll, so i am only just now finding this out.

There are no words to tell you how sad and sorry i am for your loss.

Whether you are one who believes in prayer or not, i am holding you in my heart and prayers in the days to come.

jenny_o said...

Thank you, Mimi.

baili said...

thinking of you with heart filled with prays and best wishes for you my precious friend!
hugs and sending lots and lots of healing energy to you!

Yorkshire Pudding said...

Dear Jenny
Twenty days later I hope that it is not too late to send you my condolences upon the death of your beloved husband.
Fond regards,
Neil
(Yorkshire Pudding)

baili said...

just here to wish you all the peace ,health and goodness my precious friend Jenny!

thinking of you with heart filled with prays!

Debby said...

I am so very sorry to read of your loss. I've no advice ~ only condolences.

Mary said...

Thinking of you today.

Joan (Devon) said...

Hugs))))

baili said...

think of you with heartfelt prayers dear Jenny!

Cherie said...

Jenny love, I am just stopping by to make sure that you are ok.(((((gentle hug))))

Bonnie said...

I just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you. Sending love and hugs!

Betsy MacWhinney said...

Oh Jennio, I am so sorry. Words fail, but know that you are in my thoughts.

LL Cool Joe said...

Oh no, I thought you were quiet because you were caring for your husband, I didn't realise he'd died. I'm so, so sorry. :( I thought when I saw your comment on another blog that things were better, so I'm so sorry they are not. You are in my prayers. :(

Rachel Phillips said...

I often think about you Jenny. I picked up from Bonnie and across. Take care x

kylie said...

Hi Jenny,
I've seen you comment around the place and I'm happy to see it because you must be developing some new kind of normal.
Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you xx

Marie Smith said...

Thinking of you Jenny!

baili said...

i am with faith that the wisdom and strength i have noticed in you through your writings will keep you safe and serene and will help you grow out of this hard time with all the sublimity of your being my dear friend!
hugs!