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Tuesday, 1 July 2025

Still Kicking & Canada Day

I thought this would be a good day to check in and let you all know I have not fallen off the side of the earth yet, despite my lack of posting that might indicate otherwise.

Today is July 1 - Canada Day - in my part of the world. This holiday takes on even more significance for Canadians in the current political climate. In the face of annexation threats and heavy tariffs against us by Trump & Co., Canadians have come together to stop buying American products as much as possible. Oh, and - against all odds - to elect another Liberal federal government because the Conservative party has turned into a mini-Trump party. Enough Canadians abhorred that scenario, thank goodness, and we have a steady hand on the country's tiller for now at least.

Meanwhile, I've gone back to working days to fill in for a co-worker who left to take another job. It was supposed to be for May only, but the new person hired for the position left after a week so I am still there. I am enjoying being around my co-workers again, instead of working in the evenings when I am usually alone, and the ability to help out at this busy time of year is satisfying. I'm also happy for the extra income, as both my washer and dryer have given up the ghost over the past two months. (Don't tell my stove, but it - the stove - is the last remaining appliance in the house from the original fridge-stove-washer-dryer we bought when we moved into our first house after getting married forty-five years ago. It doesn't hurt that it gets little use these days, but I'm sure the second it knows I can replace it then it will give a sigh of relief and slip away to a better place.)

Also, to update you on my mom, she is deeply unhappy at the nursing home and this troubles me. It is not a homey place and there is high staff turnover, and I agree with her assessment that it's not a home, it's just a place to "make do". She still longs to go back to her own house, where she had some illusion of independence and definitely had more privacy and peace and quiet. I am still looking for solutions, including a private care home forty minutes away from me. It is a risky move to consider. If it doesn't work out, I don't know what the alternatives are or how long it could take to implement them. I do know that I can't take on her care myself. It drove me to the brink, mentally, when I was responsible for her before. Her needs are greater now, and in order to look after her I would have to stop working. Work has been a great help in regaining and maintaining my mental health, and I don't want to lose that. Even when my current position is filled and I go back to evenings, I know now that I need something to do where I can interact with people most days. That may be volunteer work or it may be something else, but I am well aware that it can't be as caretaker for my mom, no matter how selfish that sounds or feels.

I've had some physical health challenges over the last six months, but I am trying to deal with them one by one. I'm also renewing my attempts to move more and eat less, which my job has also helped. I am not naturally a high-energy, "busy" person; even as a child my favourite activities weren't actually activities but very quiet pastimes that I enjoy to this day: reading, handcrafts, writing and thinking. It is difficult to integrate exercise into that framework, especially as I get older and creakier.

So that's the update on this warm, windy day in Donkey Land. I'm off to do some chores that will make life easier for future me. Laundry needs washing so it can air-dry (see above re dead dryer). Housework needs doing. I still have a boatload of stuff here from my mom's house to be cleaned and donated. There is no shortage of things to keep me busy.

Please enjoy some memes before you go.






















And finally, for all my fellow vertically-challenged peeps out there:





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That's it for now. Later, my friends.


 

13 comments:

  1. Yes, the appliances are likely talking with each other. Sorry to hear that your Mom continues to struggle to adjust.
    Happy Canada day, so glad we live in this fantastic country.

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  2. Good to hear from you again! Happy Canada day - keep it up. We here in Denmark also almost stopped buying American stuff.
    I hope you find a good and opermanent solution with your mom, most of those "homes" are so not homely.
    That last funny cracked me up. thanks!

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    1. PS. Are you quite sure your mom is also unhappy when you're not there. Or that she would be happier somewhere else, that still would not be her old home?
      You probably already thought of all this and more too. But my mom was in one place and very unhappy. Then she was moved to another place, and was unhappy there and longed for number one place, then she was hospitalized and longed for number two place. I'm quite sure it was inside her, not in the places as such - even if number one was a better place.

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  3. Believe it or not I was thinking about you yesterday and wondering if we would here from you again. It sounds as if things are going well for you personally. A shame about your mother's situation. Finding a good place seems to be pure luck. Perhaps our new government can do something about that (on top of everything else they have to handle at the moment). I bet your replacement appliances aren't going to last anywhere near as long as the originals. While you have been AWOL we have sold our acreage and bought a house in town. The last two months we have been living in a friend's basement waiting for possesion. It has been a tiny bit grim. I'm telling you because I can't breathe a word to anyone else-small town gossip you know. Anyway, happy dance-we get the keys tomorrow!

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  4. Nice to hear that your life is still ticking along Jenny. Regarding your mother's dissatisfaction with the residential home - would it possible to take her out of there sometimes for lunch or just some peaceful time in a park - something like that? You have been such a great daughter to her that self-recriminations should be totally off the menu. HAPPY CANADA DAY!

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  5. I think visiting the private care home a few times to get a feel for the place might help with your decision. Talk to some who live there and also to family who visit them. If you can afford the home then it might be a better place for your mum.
    Fingers crossed your stove keeps working.

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  6. Welcome back. It is good to read you again. I hope with time you won’t feel guilty about not providing care for your mother. Your health is important. You have to take care of yourself first. That is not selfish.

    Happy Canada Day!

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  7. Good to hear that you're still in blogland. Happy Canada Day.

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  8. On several occasions I compensated for personal issues by pouring myself into my work... easy to decide to do when you factor in the otherwise non-existent money, but found out the hard way that bodies do age and tolerate less of that kind of behavior. OK, I was taking it to an extreme and working ten to thirteen hour days during a stressful acquisition of the company, but one evening I woke up unable to roll over because I'd had a stroke, and haven't been employable since then.
    Happy Canada day, and congratulations on electing a sane government. I deeply yearn for one of those just now...

    -Doug in Sugar Pine

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  9. It's not at all selfish or unreasonable to refrain from taking on a burden which was already pushing you past your limits of endurance when you were doing it before. Taking care of an elderly person can be tremendously demanding, and at some point the demands would overpower you to the point where it was not safe for your mother. I'm sure the change was unsettling for her, but there was no way of avoiding that. I'm sure back in the days when she was fully in her right mind, she would have wanted you to prioritize yourself.

    Glad you're getting some benefit from social interactions at your job. That's another problem that can arise when you're a full-time caregiver -- you get cut off from the rest of the world.

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  10. I completely relate to not being able to take on the full time care of your mom.
    People keep asking if I live with my mum and no, no I dont. I can't, couldn't, won't. I bet nobody asks my brother the same question.
    You deserve to live the life you want.
    I hope you can find the right place for your mom, you can only live life to the extent that you know shes ok

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  11. You are not selfish for setting a good boundary with what you can and cannot do for your mother.

    It's good to see you and thank you so much for the funnies. If that was a squirrel, they make them much bigger there.

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  12. It's good to hear from you.
    I'm sorry that your worries with your mother persist and hope you can find a solution that works for both of you. That's difficult when it's not easy to please some people.
    The otter in the sock delighted me - so sweet.

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